Blogging for Chocolate - Part 16 - JTM
This post is part of the Blogging for Chocolate Contest over at MomsTalkRadio.com. I wanna win the chocolate! 
It would be easy for me to go back to my “standard” podcasts and continue to talk about them, but there are so many great choices of podcasts at the MomTalkRadio network. Today I stumbled on a treasure… The Journey to Motherhood podcast.
My heart is still very full and because I’m listening to part 2 of three, I’ll eagerly go and listen to part one and set my blog reader to make sure I get notified when part 3 comes out.
I’m listening to Barbara’s guest speaker even now, as she shares her story about one of her adoptions - where, while on the way to meet with the potential birth mother, the agency called to tell her and her husband that this mom was a scam artist and was never pregnant. It’s hard for me even to imagine how that might make me feel if I was in that situation. From what I’m hearing, this was not her first failed adoption - but when your heart is so invested in this child, this lovely baby that will soon be yours…. my heart aches even if I try to go there.
I can’t easily empathize with women in this situation because I used to say that all David had to do was look at me and I was pregnant after I had been on the pill for a couple of years (that’s a whole separate blog post - in hindsight we probably would have started having babies right away and just kept having them!) So having to take multiple pregnancy tests, think that I’m pregnant when I’m not, let alone fertility drugs or failed adoptions is really kind of a foreign thought to me.
But I have known families who have and do struggle with this - and my heart does ache. One of my friends recently adopted her son after a long long painful wait.
I was convicted as I listened to Colleen and Barbara talk about how “people” treated them differently once they found out about the failed adoptions… people don’t want to invite you to baby showers, they don’t know what to say, etc. I hope that when I’m in a situation with a friend in a situation like this that I might be able to be real - admit this is hard, that my heart is aching, that although I can’t feel their pain I know there is pain, etc., and just be there to listen, pray and encourage.
I love too, how Colleen shares that these experiences made her a stronger, more faithful person who was seeking to find out what God’s purpose is in her life. Rather than wallowing in her pain, as real as that is and was, she sought God’s leading and got involved with other people and organizations to serve Him. Although her desire to be a mother is first and foremost, she found joy and purpose in the wait. Really a wonderful perspective. It sounds like her husband was a rock as well - encouraging, praying and keeping them both grounded.
I loved this show and am thankful for the contest to bring me someplace I wouldn’t have gone before.
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